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How to Deal with Fear of Failure

7/27/2017

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Today is a quickie, with a few big ideas. My topic: fear of failure.

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The only way to accomplish anything great is to risk failing at it first. As a society we have forgotten this. We are held and hold ourselves to high expectations of perfection.

Sadly, fear of failure is exactly what leads to failure itself. When we are concerned about failure we create the very conditions for failure to happen. We tense up, get in our heads, and cut ourselves off from our own vital energy. We can even stop trying, however subtly, in expectation of failure. We start playing it safe.
Fortunately for us, our chances of success go way up if we can find a way to work with our fear of failure. This fear is simply an internal mindset. Its when we try to be perfectionistic, overly self critical, and become worried about looking bad.

What to do with such a mindset? Well, change it of course!

We must learn how to fail constructively. Because failures are inevitable, nothing can be accomplished without some failure along the way. Indeed, without occasional failure one can never hope to become better.

So failures are in fact an opportunity. They provide a spotlight on the areas in which we can improve. Failure is actually invaluable feedback. Moreover, we cannot improve without determining the areas in which we need to improve!

DC Gonzalez, a top peak performance coach, has one tip for how we can work with this and other mental issues that may come up for an athlete or performer.

First, we must adapt what we imagine is the self talk of the best in our sport or field. Then we must move as they would, telling our body in a deep way that we are successful ourselves. And finally, we must breathe deeply.

If all of these steps are followed with full attention and intention, they can lift us right out of the gutter of anticipated failure and give us the focused mindset necessary for effective performance.

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Edward Kirk link
1/17/2018 04:17:18 am

Every individual is scared of failure. It's a human turn of mind. Basically what happens is that when a person goes outside of his comfort zone, he feels scared. I think our self-importance and self-hood become so muffled-up in what we are carrying out, that when the things do not proceed as we anticipate, we can rigorously feel like we are going to kick the bucket. However, by reframing your ambitions, visualizing the stumbling blocks, leaving your story unprotected, learning from the mistakes, staying focused and positive, taking the recommendations of a life coach, you can deal with the fear of failure.

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Timur Crone
1/17/2018 07:31:08 am

I love that! Those are such great points. I think confusing ourselves for what we are doing is the most common mistake, and being able to have the vulnerability to leave our story unprotected is a skill all of us, including myself, would do well to work towards. Your comment is pretty much the perfect outline for a part 2 of this article haha.

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Jean link
6/26/2022 04:10:12 pm

Good blog poost

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Timur
6/27/2022 03:26:18 pm

Glad you liked the article!

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    Timur Crone is a USATF certified running coach with an MA in Counseling Psychology,
    Chi Arts Association Taoist Mind-Body Mastery Teacher, Reposturing bodyworker, and Life Coach, and more in Oakland, CA. ​

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